Splat: Finding Commitment And Drive After Discovering That I Don't Bounce Anymore

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 To celebrate my fancy new blog layout (we have a proper Contact Form and About Us page!) I have a tale of woe and redemption and bruised ribs to share.

Dino came out a little quieter than normal for our lesson this week, and it took some work to awaken him in our warm-up. He felt bored and a little resentful about yet another trip to the indoor, and letting him cruise around in a forward gear on the rail wasn't really doing it. Homeboy is overdue for a trail ride, and I can definitely tell! In any case, we combatted the pony'tude with lots of walk/trot transitions, focusing on riding forward into both the upward and downward transitions, and getting him sharp off my leg. We added in canter departs earlier than normal as well to shake things up for Dino, and while he was cranky about it, it definitely helped get the motor running.

Finding his jumping gear has gotten so, so much easier. It no longer takes half the lesson to find Dino's gallop, and once we're there he maintains it fairly well on his own. It's a good feeling to know that gear is in there, and it's reliable.

Once we were warmed up in canter, we practiced big figure-8's across the entire arena with simple changes through the trot. The right-to-left change was pretty good, but I was having major issues with the left-to-right. I wasn't committing with my position to moving him out towards the wall before changing, and instead just bracing crookedly and therefore inviting Dino to motorcycle around the turn like a counter-bent 2x4, and so we both exacerbated each other's issues.

My trainer told me to keep my reins short and glance down at my hands as I came across the diagonal to make sure that my reins, and therefore my hips, were even and straight, and think about leg yielding out to the wall before asking for the change. It was really amazing how much keeping my own body straight helped balance the simple change and the turn, but they key was committing to straightness in my body instead of letting myself react to what Dino was doing and try to muscle him around.

After we successfully completed the figure-8/simple change exercise a few more times, it was time to get started jumping. My trainer had set up a triple combination in addition to several single fences, and I was feeling mentally ready to tackle it all. I picked up a great canter and circled through the center of the arena to jump our warm-up fence: a small 2' wall set inside a crossrail. The turn was balanced, the approach was straight, I saw a good distance and kept my seat and hands soft and leg on, and Dino slammed to a dirty, dirty stop in front of it, effectively flinging me over his head and onto the ground.

What a little shit.

The face of Naughtiness. 
I lay on the ground for a while, struggling to get enough air in my lungs after having all of my available oxygen forcefully expelled, wondering if I had broken anything. Once I was able to sit up, breathe somewhat normally, and reached the conclusion that my body was, for the most part, intact, I started to feel a feeling that was not fear, or frustration, or defeat.

I was pissed.

My trainer was concerned that I had really hurt myself (I hit the ground hard, folks.) and cautioned me not to get back on unless I felt that I was 100% OK.

At that point in time I was so mad that I didn't even care how badly I was hurt, plus the adrenaline was kicking in, so I got back on and made Dino get the hell back to work.

After all the months of hard work I had put in over the past year to get past this kind of crap, I was furious that Dino had behaved so badly and dumped me in the dirt at a glorified crossrail. My trainer took down the rails so that the jump was just the plain wall, and I picked up a bold trot and aimed Dino at it again, 100% committed to getting his bad pony butt to the other side. I grabbed mane, shortened up my reins, got in the backseat, and rode the crap out of him, popping over the little box again and again, then from the canter, riding right to the base so Dino wouldn't have the excuse of the long spot to quit on me again. Once he was taking me over reliably, I rode to a longer distance. And then we did it a few times in the opposite direction as well, just to make my point, until my right arm and shoulder and ribs started hurting too much to continue.

I rode like an eventer for once in my life and made SURE that the pony was going to jump the fence. Stopping was not an option. I was, finally, committed beyond all doubt to getting over the jumps.

Despite the pain that I'm in today and the irritation and frustration I still feel about Dino stopping and flinging me into the ground, I'm happy to say that this fall doesn't feel like a massive setback. I'm more than satisfied with my response in the moment - instead of filling myself with paralyzing fear, I got mad and got back on and schooled the snot out of my bad pony. I found commitment to the ride, to forward, to jumping, and that kind of drive and intensity and relentless riding is something I haven't felt in a long time.

I'm comin' for ya, show season.



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  1. <3 the new format!!!! hugs for the bruises tho. ugh. Dino nooooooo. bad pony! :(

    i seriously love your attitude tho. embrace that anger. get pissed! while i find it frustrating, sometimes it takes something bad happening for me to actually get my butt in gear and make things happen in no uncertain terms.

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    1. Thanks girl! I agree - especially when things are generally going well for a while, sometimes we need to be shaken up a little to lose the sense of complacency!

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  2. So glad to hear that you're ok, if sore. That's so brace of you to get right back on and push through it like that. I don't know if I would have had the guts

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    1. Thanks! Feelings of total rage definitely helped motivate me to get back on LOL

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  3. OMG, I felt the anger there for you. I heard the thump as you hit the ground and felt flashbacks to that exact same feeling. There was no reason for him to be an a** and I'm glad you weren't too hurt to get on and show him that he WILL go over the jump when you tell him to.

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  4. You know it's for real when Alli starts swearing. omg.

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  5. Daggone, Dino! You, sir, are not on my happy list rn.

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  6. Oh man, Dino and Bridget still sharing their evil tricks. Good on you for getting back on and making it happen. I know how hard that can be. My coach frequently reminds me of the time at a show I finally got pissed at B and rode the snot out of the course and she still giggles over the look of shock B apparently had on her face.
    "Remember the time you rode her like a pony? Do that again! And every time!" More often than not, when things get weird I can hear her shouting in the distance "KICK ON AND RIDE HER LIKE A PONY!!!" lol

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    1. YES I love it!! Definitely a good thought for me to keep in mind every ride. I think Dino was legit just testing to see if stopping was still a legitimate option. NOPE, SORRY!

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  7. shit bad pony bad....I can feel your anger too and that is NOT cool Dino!! Dont make mommy angry AND sore. UGH i feel for you. I hope the next ride is fine. Ponies. JUST CANT TRUST THEM :) ha ha ha PS love the new blog look!

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  8. Naughty Dino!! But good for you for getting back on the horse (errr, pony!) and making it happen.

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  9. Aw crap, I hope nothing hurts too badly! Not cool Dino!

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  10. Good for you! I have experienced that pissed off feeling too.

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  11. YASS! I love the new layout. And DAMN DINO. But it sounds like you got both of you into great shape after it.

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  12. Damn ponies. They always know just how to test their human. So proud of you for passing his little test. I bet he'll think twice about it next time he starts thinking about being naughty!

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  13. UGH. I get immediately pissed when I come off Q because it's over total BS. Definitely a better feeling than being afraid! Good for you, I'm sure Dino will buck up now that you've got this new attitude to match his ponytude!

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  14. Those dirty stops - UGH! Good for you for making sure he knew that was not okay and I hope you're feeling better

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  15. Naughty pony! But good on you for finding that grit and making it happen! Sounds like Dino learned something from that experience!

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  16. As much as it sucks, I actually think that it might have been a good thing for you! You know that Dino can jump and you know you have the lady balls to tell him how it is!

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  17. I love the new blog layout btw. Falling off sucks, and getting bruised in the process is insult to injury! I'm glad that you told Dino what was what.

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